Why You Shouldn't (Or Should!) Date A Dancer

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Why You Shouldn't (Or Should!) Date A Dancer

Christina Kim
January 23, 2024
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Wanna know what dating a dancer is really like?Well, one thing we can say for sure is that it's not always rainbows and couples choreo.

It's more like this: 21 Things All Dancer Couples Have Experienced

Whether you're thinking about dating a dancer, you're currently dating a dancer, or you've dated a dancer...You'll be able to relate to this list of pros and cons...


Pro #1: Same dance schedules = same free time!

If you've ever dated a non-dancer, then you'll realize that you can only talk to him/her before or after practice because it's too hectic during, right? So you can either text him/her before 7pm or after 2am, but news flash: some people actually sleep before midnight. Not dancers, though. Dancers are up at random hours of the night; have you ever checked Facebook after a really long practice and noticed the people online are mostly dancers? Exactly.

With schedules coinciding, you can hang out at with your dancer girlfriend or dancer boyfriend, in the wee hours of the night and eat together at 4am (though I'm pretty sure this is not great for your health). But whatever. Dating a dancer will enable your late-night binges. **TEAMCEST BONUS: YOU GET TO PRACTICE TOGETHER, WHICH EQUALS TIME TOGETHER!**

Pro #2: #NoNewFriends – the same social circles of dancers

Let's face it: dance teams take up so much of your time that your only other friends outside of your team are either your parents, your dog, or other dancers on other teams that you met that one time at that one party through that one friend and now you guys follow each other on Instagram and comment on each others' photos saying, "LET'S HANG OUT SOON!" or "WERRRRRRRK" or "YASSSSSSS"

Recognize these? Dancers on Instagram VS. Dancers In Real Life

Because you guys have the same friends, it makes hanging out easier, which makes group settings less awkward! **TEAMCEST BONUS: YOU GUYS LITERALLY HAVE THE SAME FRIENDS BECAUSE YOUR ONLY FRIENDS ARE ON YOUR TEAM.**

Pro #3: You share the same interest and passion for dance

The love and passion for dance that dancers share is something indescribable, something that you can only feel personally. When you find a dancer who shares the same interest as you do – the same drive, the same commitment to dance – it feels fantastic.

Through this, you two can motivate each other to work harder and become better dancers, or push to reach whatever goals you have for your dance career.It's a special bond.

Read other ways this bond is formed: Why Are Dancers So Attracted To Other Dancers?

Pro #4: Did someone say collab? Making choreography with your bf/gf!

Appppppaaaarently dance couples just LOVE dancing together and collaborating. Guess it's cute. On the real though, if you're dating a dancer, then that's an automatic partner for any couples choreography, an automatic viewer/critic for any choreo that you want to present, and an automatic idea-bounce-off-er. It's a more than a romantic relationship – it's a creative partnership.

Not sure how to start? Read this: How To Collab With Someone To Make A Piece

Pro #5: Always having something to talk about

Do you fear long term commitments/relationships because you are nervous of running out of things to talk about later on in the relationship? Fear not! From fangirling new videos to criticizing the placings at that one competition, you two will always have the DANCE WORLD to talk about.


Pro #6: "Did you see ____'s new video OMG"

Going along #1's note on synced schedules, you'll just be synced up in life, including new concept/workshop videos released. You have some someone to watch these videos with. And let me tell you, regular non-dancing people can only watch so many before they want to do something... more productive with their lives. NOT DANCERS THOUGH.

Pro #7: The pro you've been thinking about but didn't think I'd say but I'm saying it...

"Dancers are generally better in bed since they have an idea of rhythm."Someone told me that, we're just quoting it.Alright. Moving right along to...


Starting with: The con that we didn't even think about 'til someone else said it...

"We're both tired as sh*t all the time. Tired = no sex."Is this true? We dunno. Ha.


Woo, you scored a dancer. Good for you Glenn Coco, you go Glenn Coco. However, that is not going to stop all the other thirsty b*tches and dudes in the dance community from eyeing your significant other. There will never be enough Gatorade to quench the thirst of the dance community. You've been warned. Don't get crazy.

Con #3: #NoNewFriends (Part II) – Same. Social. Circles.

So like we said earlier, the community is small. And because the community is so tight, if things get a little messy, don't think that it'll be a secret. IT SPREADS DUDE.EVERYTHING SPREADS.

Con #4: Different dance teams = different schedules

So you're one of the lucky ones who somehow branched out at a mixer and is dating a dancer from a different team. Congratulations to you!But your practices are Monday/Wednesday while his are Tuesday/Thursday? And it's 'long distance' because he's on a different team too?Omg this sounds like a happy ending we cannot wait to hear how this goes.

Con #5: GET ON MAH LEVEL – When one of you is obviously way way better at dancing

Now that you've snagged yourself a dancer, you are clearly Keone and Mari – except you're not. This is pretty shallow, but hypothetically speaking, if your girlfriend or boyfriend is a better dancer than you are, then your life can either go one of two ways: you can either be inspired to become a better dancer OR you can either feel threatened by them, and tension can be created.

It's no one's fault; it's not like you guys dated each other based on dance skill (or maybe you did), but the idea that one of you is better than the other is just kind of... unsettling. Everyone is at least a little competitive. The only solution to this is to either both be really really good, or both be really really mediocre. Boom. **TEAMCEST BONUS – CASTING. BLOCKING. SYMPATHY. YOUR BOYFRIEND GOT BACK CORNER WHILE YOU'RE OFF THE RIGHT SHOULDER OF CENTER. WHAT DO YOU DO. WHAT DO YOU DO?!**

Con #6: Not realizing there's actually a world outside of dance

When you're dancing, in competition mode, in practice mode, then you have school or a job or both... plus a relationship, you think that hanging out at practice is enough time to hang out. You see each other for hours in a parking lot, you see each other at competitions, isn't that the same thing? NO. WRONG. IT IS NOT THE SAME THING. As probably the most common answer as a con to dance-lationships (mostly in teamcestual situations):

"You see each other all the time, but sometimes you need to actually go out and do some date type sh*t cause let me tell you, that doesn't happen."

Just because you see each other at practices or you spend time together at competitions or performances does NOT classify as spending time together as a couple (well it does, but it shouldn't be the only time you spend together). Remember that relationships need spontaneity, they need romance, and they need some nights where you sit at home and watch Netflix together.

Try these! 11 Creative Date Ideas For Dancers

Con #7: When all good things must come to an end

The dance community is small and everyone knows everything, so dancer breakups are pretty sucky. The best way to get over your ex is actually NOT by seeing him/her the night after your broke up and then for every night for 5+ hours for the next few weeks. Anyway, this is not to discourage you from swiping right on Tinder to that cute guy on GRV, but this is also not to encourage you to try and spark a game of Truth or Dare at your team's retreat and somehow rigging it so that you dare someone to make out with you... whuuuut.

In any case, you're young, people are attractive, and you only love once maybe #yolom, so have fun! Maybe you'll find the love of your life!Or maybe you'll agree with Chris Brown after finding out that some hoes, in fact, are not loyal.GOOD LUCK.Watch this article play out IRL in our STEEZY Original below!

Maybe catch your crush's (or boyfriend/girlfriend's) attention by becoming BOMB at dancing – with the help of STEEZY Studio.